14 Jul Sinful Spouses: Material Girl
By Nabila Malick
If I am not looking stunning it is because I don’t possess the right material. I will look gorgeous even if I am 20 kgs over weight if I my wardrobe had at least one dress each of Adidas, Armani, Bossini, Calvin Klein, Christian Dior, Dockers, Dolce and Gabbana, Esprit, Fubu, Fcuk, Gucci, Guess, Hugo Boss, Levi’s, Lacoste, Mango, Nike, Pepe Jeans, Pierre Cardin, Prada, Puma, Promod, Ralph Lauren, Speedo, Tommy Hilfiger, Timberland, Versace, Van Heusen and Wrangler.
A dress is never complete without a matching shoe and a shoe closet is incomplete if there is no Nike, Puma, Converse, Adidas, Reebok, New Balance, DC Shoes, Dr. Martens, Bearpaw, Skechers, Zodiac, Naturalizer, Ecco, Vans, Nine West in it. A matching bag is an absolute essential.
I am not greedy just a collection of watches made by Rolex, Tissaut, Tag Heuer, Omega, Armani, Brietling, Audemars Piguet, Gucci, Panerai, Chanel is all I need. It is pathetic to see people spend their whole life wearing one silly watch. They believe watch is only for keeping time, they are so wrong. Watches are supposed to define your class, your taste, your style and your whole personality – I have to wear a different brand with each outfit.
Now wearing all the above and not having a BMW is just plain wrong. You have to own a car that goes with your style and taste. Having only one car exposes one’s superficial attempt at being classy so an Audi, a Mercedes Benz, a Porsche and a Ferrari have to be added to the collection.
Traveling without a Louis Vuitton luggage is unthinkable. Some fashion accessories from Louis Vuitton are a must as well they make a woman feel confident, wanted and sexy.
If I can’t have vacation twice a year, life is not worth living. A vacation means traveling first class going to some exotic location living in five star hotel, driving the limousine and ordering in the room, get the best massages available and being able to shop to your heart’s content. Oh, that is vacation and not counting pennies and saving by cutting down on food budget and taking the cheapest flights. It is better to stay home and sulk then to take on such a vacation.
If you love me darling you will get me all that I need. I will look pretty for you and the world will be envious of you for having such a stylish and stunning wife.
This is the philosophy someone we know lives by. And the poor husband is always struggling… to try and change her, to make her look at the real stuff and mostly trying to get her what she wants and what makes her happy.
We all want to look good. Some of us get the designer stuff too if we can afford it but to believe that happiness is connected to brand names can best be explained as a disease.
We can analyze this one case and see why some people are so materialistic. Our material girl is very pretty. She has lived a straight life. Never had an affair, married the first guy her parents thought will make her a good husband. The person is nice but looks wise can be best rated as below average. The material girl knows a number of pretty girls who are married to average looking very rich guys and they keep them happy by getting them expensive gifts. She can compromise with having an average looking husband but she wants him to be able to match the rich guy’s life styles. She wants her friends to believe that she is equally wanted and valued because they have convinced her that they are wanted and valued and the proof is the gifts.
She is probably valued more as a mother and wife but the trophies she demands as proof are a cause of constant tension in her house. The material girl is our sinful spouse this quarter because she has let her love for the material blinded her towards her own happiness.
Her husband often borrows money to take her on vacations. The vacation is never up to the mark and the loan makes life after vacation even harder.
The picture of the material girl we have painted above is the modern time material girl. In our eastern tradition a sensible woman was the one who could get her husband to buy her assets and I know many stories in which these so called sensible women have driven their husbands to early graves for this very reason.
A house is a place where two people can share happy moments and can make memories that will keep them warm in their old age. And if a couple wastes their time together obsessing about the future then they will most probably realize that the regret of wasting good opportunities of present will in fact ruin their future peace. They will become bitter and blame each other for the time gone by.
I once met an old lady sitting in a lawn of a huge house sipping her tea alone. She looked very sad and on inquiring she told me that all her life she was afraid her husband will give this house to his other family and she lived in the house like a stranger never trusting her husband. She lived in that state of mind for forty years. Her husband died forty years after their marriage. After his death she found out that he had already transferred the house in her name along with a huge bank balance so she won’t depend on anyone after his passing away. And now that she has all the security she craved for all her life she realized that life ended with the death of her husband. She regrets obsessing about security and ignoring life itself. The regret was etched on the age lines on her face and the huge house stood tall and majestic behind her mocking her.
The time we have with our loved ones is a precious time. Nothing is worth wasting this time over.
The material girl who wants to see life through Gucci glasses wearing Shiseido make-up and Prada shoes holding a LV bag needs to take the glasses off and see life in its true colours.